19. The Power of Menstrual Cycle Awareness for Better PMS, PCOS, and ADHD Management with Ariana Rodriguez

Have you ever felt like a passenger on the emotional rollercoaster of PMS, or find yourself struggling to stay productive amidst the tidal waves of PCOS or ADHD? You're not alone. Joined by the incredible Ariana Rodriguez, this episode brings you an intimate conversation on the transformative potential of cycle syncing. We peel back the layers on managing energy, mood, and productivity by tuning into the rhythms of our menstrual cycles. It's a heart-to-heart that promises to enlighten, with personal anecdotes and the kind of raw, real talk that's been missing from the dialogue on women's health.

Let's face it: anxiety and PMS can make for a formidable duo. But what if you could navigate this terrain with a bit more grace? We share strategies to pause the chaos, like Ariana's 'parking lot' method for overwhelming thoughts, and discuss the solace found in self-care and firm boundaries. Ariana and I don't just talk about the storms - we reveal our tactics to dance in the rain, offering insights to help you track and steer through your emotional ebbs and flows.

Diving into the daily dance of work and self-care, Ariana open up about her own ways of juggling low-energy periods with the demands of PCOS. From choosing comforting rituals to understanding when to push and when to rest, we explore how to tailor our lives to our body's messages. And remember, while I might sprinkle in some wellness wisdom as a certified nutrition coach, this episode is all about sharing experiences, not dispensing medical advice. So, cozy up and tune in for a discussion filled with empathy, practical tips, and the empowerment that comes from shared stories.

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Transcript

Naihomy: 0:09

Welcome to the Wealthy Generation Podcast. I am your host, naomi Jerez, your Bronx race, dominicana wife, mother of two new BFF and food and holistic health coach. I went from living a surface level healthy life to learning firsthand how to live my best life, rooted in wellness, and get my status back. Whether you're a wellness enthusiast, a food lover or simply curious about creating a healthier, more vibrant life, this podcast is your guide. We're going to dive deep into topics that will inspire you to make positive changes and elevate not only your well-being but those of generations before and after you. Stay tuned for exciting conversations, expert interviews and a whole lot of inspiration that will lead to action. Welcome to the Wealthy, wellthy Generation Podcast with me, your host, naomi Jerez.

Naihomy: 1:11

Hi friends, welcome back to the Wealthy Generation Podcast. That is WELLTHY, and today we have the absolute pleasure of hearing from another guest, my friend Arianna's here, and I invited her to come on because one day I was on Instagram and I was watching her stories and she was talking all about kind of cycle syncing and how she manages her cycle and ADHD with her business and how she does that, and I loved that topic because that's something that I have to do too, and oftentimes, if you're not aware of your cycle and how your energy levels change and how your mood changes, then we tend to be pretty mean to ourselves because we think right. We think that our energy, like our like motivation is gone, our inspiration is gone and like we were no good anymore. And that's technically not true. It's just a bunch of BS that are mine service. So thank you so much, arianna, for coming and joining us. Can you please introduce yourself?

Ariana: 2:27

Of course, Thank you for having me. So I'm Arianna Rodriguez. I am the founder of ARN Company and the operational consultancy agency that provides like C-suite level ops and tech support to by walk businesses who want to change the world. But I also am a ADHD, PMDD, PCOS girly and mom of two, so I get having all the acronyms can be really, really stressful when you're trying to do all the things.

Naihomy: 3:00

I get that. I also suffer from PMDD, so I get it. What inspired you to share about? You know?

Ariana: 3:11

so it's a combination of I'm fed up of like the prettiness of IG and I want to hear like real conversations or have real conversations with people. And if I want to have these real conversations, maybe I need to be the person that starts it one. And also, I very much am a you see what you get kind of person. I people are always really surprised that what they see on IG is 100% what they see when we start working together or me in real life, and I'm like I don't have capacity to be anything else. So stories have always been the place where I kind of just go in verbal, verbal vomit myself.

Ariana: 4:00

So that's, that's what happened. I was dealing with some really shitty PMS and like some really shitty PMDD. That at that point in time and I've been on like a journey on trying to like heal my nervous system a little bit and I'd be much more aware of what's happening in my body and I made some like really beautiful like analogies in my head at that point in time and I was like you know what fuck this I'm going to share with everybody. I'm really sorry. Should I be cursing on your podcast? That's fine.

Naihomy: 4:30

Okay, this is how we talk about life. So, exactly, we're going to get what you know, exactly what you said.

Ariana: 4:40

Exactly so. It was a little bit of all. It was all of those things right, like I love hearing what people, I love resonating with people, I love communicating and sharing what I'm going through to see if it resonates with other people, and also was making like my own little I don't know revelations that I wanted to like talk through and like stories just happen to be the easiest thing for me to use at that point.

Naihomy: 5:07

Well, I'm glad because I found them. I, too, try and share a little bit about my process. I've been pretty vocal about it, everything from like how I'm feeling to then ending up on anti depressants to try and help after a very, very long journey of just trying to manage it naturally. And that's something I want to point out, especially as a food and health coach, and a lot of the information that's out there where they say like, oh, it's a blood sugar issue. If you fix your blood sugar, then you know your PMS is gone and all of these things are gone. And I know right and I don't think that's necessarily true because I am one who really was successful at managing my blood sugar and like and like fixing those problems but still my PMDD was around, still I had high anxiety and it was kind of taking over my life and it was a lot of energy that I had to put in to try and manage my nervous system and I tried all the natural supplements and even discuss it with my doctor and it was still not enough.

Naihomy: 6:09

However, that point of what you said of the revelations and the awareness is really key, because I don't think there's really a way to have it go completely away. Maybe it gets better, but the key is to be aware of it so that we're not beating ourselves up. So can you share with us a little bit of your journey, of how you know you came to realize what your patterns were, how they were impacting you and what to do about it? Yeah, so this is a fun one, because it's like a hot mess.

Naihomy: 6:46

So I don't know I don't know Ariana's story, so we're all in this together. I'm so excited.

Ariana: 6:51

This is I'm going to try to keep this very linear because I tend to go like poof with my, with my storytelling, so I'm gonna try to like keep this concise. Okay, girl, all right. So one I have had really shitty periods since I was a teenager. Horrible periods, hormones all over the place, like I would. I remember specifically in high school thinking like how is my life were two weeks out of the month. I feel like the world is ending like.

Ariana: 7:19

And AMD was not a thing back then, like PMDD was not a thing. Pmdd did not become a thing until we were in our 20s and like I remember, and like I remember they specifically like were selling like a birth control that Vika helped with PMDD and I was like at one point I remember looking at that commercial and be like that's really interesting, I wonder if that's what I have. And then I thought to myself, girl, it's not that bad, you don't, you don't got none of that, it's fine. And then you know, whatever, like real. Come come to today. I now realize, bitch, you've had PMDD since you were like 15. No one just told you so that's one.

Ariana: 8:00

I've always had really rough cycles. I've always been aware of the fact that they hit me really really hard. Two I've been on and off of birth control for 20 some odd years. Birth control tends to affect me really, really strongly so I've always had to be on like the lowest possible dosage and even then I can have wild mood swings with the birth control and I'm attributing that to, like, my PMDD at this point. So I would be on birth control for six months a year. Get off, get back on. Get off, get back on right.

Ariana: 8:33

So my hormones are a mess. To top everything off, I also have PCOS, so I only have a cycle once every 35 to 65 days. It's a little bit of regular. It happens anywhere between those times, but because of that I have no idea when my cycle is actually going to hit right. So now, to like the last like five years is when I got real serious about this. So I had issues having my son. This is important because I started cycle tracking at that point and getting really, really aware when my body ovulates, and that became the turning point for me realizing that something was wrong. When I realized, like 24 to 48 hours after I ovulated, the world ended. I wanted to fall under a rock.

Naihomy: 9:22

Everything was horrible. I was horrible.

Ariana: 9:23

I needed to get a divorce, like we needed to move out of the country. Nothing works. Everything needs to stop right now. Right, like it was like. And when I realized that it happened, at that point I was like, oh, this makes so much sense now. And then, of course, because I had babies and then I had postpartum depression and then had my second child, I didn't wind up getting treated for PMDD until I was like a year, year and a half, postpartum with my second, because I was hoping that things would get better and they did not. And it wasn't until my therapist at the time was like do you realize that every because, of course, with ADHD, I've realized this and then forget this.

Ariana: 10:13

So my therapist at the point was like, do you realize that like your depression is like very cyclical and I really think that you have PMDD. And I'm like, oh yeah, I had made that like observation like a couple of years ago and then never did anything about it. So I went to my OB and like we talked about medications and now like I'm seeing somebody, I'm seeing a psychiatrist, and we're like playing around with my meds every once in a while but like between the PMDD well, that's, that is my PMDD journey. A lot of things not good to it, but it's like I've always been aware that it was there. Have I always acted on it? No, have I tried the natural route? Yes, right, like my psychiatrist right now is very into like natural remedies also, so she's like making sure that I'm up on all of my vitamins, I'm taking magnesium, I'm doing all the things, but she's like, even without, we still need to get you on some medication. I was like, yeah, let's do that, because I can't have the world end every like four weeks.

Naihomy: 11:11

Every four weeks. It's exhausting. My cycles, on the contrary, are really short. They were like 26 to 28 days. So I have like one good week. You had one good week and then one good week, and I would be like, yes, the world is great, it's fantastic to be alive, everything's perfect, I believe. And then again, just like you, everything came crashing down. I'm like I don't like myself, everything's not working, crying all the time, and I didn't even know about PMDD. I found out about this, googling my symptoms, wow, and I told my doctor I'm like it sounds like I have this. And then they started asking me questions and I got a similar question of the cyclical part of like being depressed and the world ending. And I'm like, no, I'm not like that all the time, like I have a great week and a half and then like my period rolls around again and everything else.

Ariana: 12:13

And that's the problem, right? Because, depending on when you get that questionnaire, they're like in the last seven days have you felt like the world is ending? And I'm like in the last seven days, no, maybe the last. If you asked me this like two weeks ago, maybe I would have said yes, and that's where those kind of like questionnaires are like rough to answer in a situation like this.

Naihomy: 12:33

And something that you mentioned, I think it's really important, if you're not doing it already, like it's really important for us to track our periods, because not and I think there's so much misinformation of, oh, you track your period, like you said like if you're trying to get pregnant, then yeah, you need to know what you ovulate and all that, but in general, we should be tracking.

Naihomy: 12:55

Yeah, just to even notice our emotional patterns, like our how we feel in our body, our energetic patterns, and our emotional patterns are also tied to our cycles, is not just the ovulation portion of it.

Naihomy: 13:11

So with my clients, like, if they're not tracking their period, like that's one of the main things, and they always tell me, like no, you know, like I'm not trying to get pregnant or I don't remember or it's so inconsistent, like you, like some of my PC PCOS girlies are like it's so inconsistent, I don't even know, and I'm like there must be some sort of pattern, like even, like you said, if it's 35 to 65 days, like, well then that's still a pattern, even though it's like not necessarily consistent what you see and like, what's fascinating is that there are, like, because I track my cycle, I'm now I know we're getting on topic now, but like, because I check my cycle, like I'm able to now be like, oh yeah, this month I didn't ovulate, without even looking at the data, like I just know it because I've been doing it for so long.

Ariana: 13:57

I'm able to very, very clearly pinpoint I haven't ovulated yet and like it's. It's like fascinating that I have like such an intuitive, like feel for what my body is doing now, because I've tracked it for so long, and like I would not have been able to do this had I would never have known this had I not decided to start tracking it and like trying to figure this out on my own.

Naihomy: 14:22

Yeah, and I want to know, because something I really struggled with was being very mean to myself during that time. Oh yeah, I'm an asshole to myself. Yeah, I want to hear about that. Like, how have you gone? Like, tell me all the dirty stuff your brain, oh believe I'm a horrible parent.

Ariana: 14:44

Like should me and my husband be together because we big grade over the fucking dishes, right, like it is bad. And now I don't know how to run a business. What am I even doing? Why do I? I could just get a job. Like, yeah, yeah, yeah, like it's everything. I'm a horrible person. Like it's, it's a really bad. And then I start every, every situation that I can possibly think of. I start like spiraling and catastrophizing and thinking about the worst case scenarios, like I remember specifically, like when I had like, when my son was like like little and I would like get my period and like be walking on the set. Oh my God, what happened? What would ever happen if he fell on the stairs. And I'm like bitch, why are you thinking that?

Ariana: 15:26

Like how crazy are you right now that you're thinking this, and like it was just me, like crazy, crazy thoughts that are constantly running in my brain. But now, because I know that my period is here, I'm like, okay, let's take five minutes, let's take, let's put a pin. You know that. Okay, have you ever done that exercise? And like your job. We're like let's put that in the parking lot.

Naihomy: 15:50

Yeah, yeah, parking lot. Let's put a pin on it.

Ariana: 15:52

I'm like let's take that thought and put it in the parking lot and let's address that in like a week and a half. And then if we still feel that, way, then we can take action on that. I have had and I know we're cracking up, but I'm not necessarily laughing, but it's so horrible, oh my God.

Naihomy: 16:12

I'm certainly laughing too, but I I'm. I think I'm laughing even more and like I find it's not that I find joy in this, but it's like finally talking to somebody where I feel seen, and it's like you know what I mean. It's like oh my God, I'm not losing my shit.

Ariana: 16:32

Yes, Thank God. So this week I've been PMI sing really hard, Like so I've been. I have been in pajamas. I today is the first day that I've washed my hair. I like it's right, Like I'm actually I took care of myself today, but all week I'm like my husband's, like I don't know what the fuck is wrong with you, Like are you okay? And I'm like, honestly, no. He's like what do you need? I'm like right now, literally nothing. I like what I actually want right now is to go into like a hotel room and just sit there and talk to nobody and like, yes, I'm audio books or a book for a week and a half. That's all I want. I don't want to be around anybody.

Naihomy: 17:19

Yeah, I got these noise canceling headphones. They've been really nice.

Ariana: 17:25

That's great. I love that for you. Oh my God, like block out everybody.

Naihomy: 17:33

This is so so, so accurate and I hope that someone listening to this feel seen gets some extra tips, like it doesn't matter how old you are. Ariana and I are like the early 30s, or at least I'm in my late 30s mid 30s.

Ariana: 17:49

We're the same bucket, don't worry about it.

Naihomy: 17:52

It's never too late. If this has not been your thing about tracking, about track yourself, because what? What I'm going to ask you next is well, you kind of mentioned that that you put your thoughts in your in the parking lot. I've had to do the same thing. I've had to really set a boundary with myself of not taking, because I'm aware now of my pattern. I don't allow myself to take action on the crazy thoughts that come to my mind, because that's stuff that I would do before. And then I'm like damn, I was like not a nice person, I was so mean, like why did I say that? I don't really feel that way because I didn't know. And now I'm like alright, Naomi, you have all this great shit that you're thinking about. We're going to put that over here in your part now I'm not looking at it until next week.

Naihomy: 18:41

Yes, and then we're going to make a decision Later. Yes, later, later.

Ariana: 18:48

Yeah, 1000%. So like for at work, for example, when I'm working or in my business, I don't do anything new. I tackle like smaller tasks. So my creativity this week like plummets one right like I will stare at a computer screen for hours and not know what the fuck to do. So I will take look at my to do list and tackle all those like smaller tasks that have been kind of avoiding when I have the creative energy and tackle those things because I don't have to like come up with something new. I'm really just like executing and this is a good week for me to execute versus making decisions Right. So that's the other thing that I try to do. Is I like I'm really I've become right. This is a journey. I have become really like kind to myself when it comes to the kids and like what the energy level that I have this week.

Ariana: 19:44

So yesterday, no, two days ago, tuesday we after school we took a drive and we just drove for 45 minutes literally with no destination in mind. I didn't get the hell out of the house. We drove for 45 minutes, we stopped, I got them hot chocolate, I got myself a coffee, became back home and we hung out and watch the movie. Yesterday we went to the library quiet, quiet. It was quiet, thank you, environment. It was a quiet environment where, like they were able to like walk as quietly as a three and five year old can possibly walk and pick out books, right, and then they were like super indulged in their like into their books the minute we got home. So, like they kind of walk me alone.

Ariana: 20:31

I try to make it so that the kids are doing things that I don't necessarily need to be 100%, therefore, because I know my capacity goes from 100 to like three Mm, hmm, right, so like I makes me, it gives me the opportunity to like rest my nervous system while also making sure that they're taking care of what the other thing that I do is that okay? So the funny thing and you tell me this is something that happens to you is, whenever I get my period, all of a sudden I yell at myself for not being good enough and be productive enough, and all of a sudden I want to like work out and work out hard, and I do all the things and I'll make. Why aren't you doing it? What's wrong with you? But my body can't handle that during this week, like at all. My body can't handle that and, like today, I got home and I'm like I'm gonna do yoga. I don't like.

Ariana: 21:21

I got on that mat and I was like bitch the fuck are you doing? So I literally just stretched and I did some restorative yoga poses for 45 minutes and it was probably the most healing thing that I've ever done in my entire life for myself, because it's what I needed. It's still a lot for a little bit of movement, but it didn't push me any kind of way or activate me. It was still just like nice.

Naihomy: 21:43

Yeah, I hear that and there's a lot of talk about there, about cycle thinking when it comes to movement, to and and people have asked me that question.

Naihomy: 21:52

It has happened to me, I do. I have felt before, I guess, the awareness stage of this. I think it's very important to identify that there was a time where Ariana and I did not know what was going on, and then there was this level of awareness and it's just like, well, how do you learn, how to manage this the kindest way possible? How do you give your body what it means without beating yourself up for not doing what you regularly do and are able to do Right? So, yeah, I mean, if you guys follow me on Instagram or if you're like listening from Ariana's audience, I, I'm an avid gym goer, I go three times a week and I, you know, lift really heavy and all that, and there are times where my body is just not having it.

Naihomy: 22:41

So I try to match the energy. Sometimes I don't have the energy to go as heavy or as many reps, or I'm not excited at all about it and I don't make it mean anything. Before it would be like oh my gosh, I'm so weak, I lost on my strength. Oh my God, why am I struggling so much? And I'm like losing my breath. And now it's like oh, it's because I'm in deep in Luthio phase and my body's just not up to that yet. So I don't do things that I know my body's going to struggle with, like, let's say, interval training on a treadmill. No, like the one time I tried to do that, I almost got hurt because my body's like what are you doing?

Ariana: 23:25

You should be on a couch. Why are you trying to kill me?

Naihomy: 23:28

I know that was it, and then I was like, all right, never again. So it really is that thing of listening to your body. Sometimes the movement is walking, or sometimes the movement is stretching. That is that is it. And other times they may have more energy and I may want to do some sort of workout, but I'm very mindful of. Well, maybe I need to go 10 pounds lighter and maybe I need to do three less reps and that's okay, and then next week I'm a smoke, all y'all.

Ariana: 24:02

You just wait.

Naihomy: 24:04

But the main point is the being so freaking mean to ourselves and like completely destroying ourselves, because then when you're out of that phase, you're still in the beat up phase. You don't even realize that your energy is back and your strength is back and all that, and then you can go back to what you were normally doing Exactly no, and it's like you're exactly what you said.

Ariana: 24:29

You're still beating yourself up and you're like okay, how do I now forgive myself and move forward now that I have all this energy and for me at least, it took a lot of time to get there and then like to like, try to forgive myself and then to just have it have it all over again, right? And it's just like it was a really like toxic cycle for a long time.

Naihomy: 24:53

Yeah, I think that all over again part is is really good too, because if you go on meds or like you're heavy, a really great time, you're like yes, I made it, I'm out of it, I figured it out. And then, oh, next week you're back and then you're like shit, I thought I had solved this already. Like why am I feeling like this?

Ariana: 25:15

It was that that, right, there is really like that's the thing, right. It's like you're finally like yeah, we're great, life is awesome, let's party. And then you, it's like you get smacked with a ton of bricks and you're like what the fuck happened to me? Yeah, this person was I haven't like where did this come from? And like for a long time, that like, even like, even in my relationship that caused a lot of issues until I realized I'm like, oh, if I'm getting upset about something, let me just shut my mouth and then we'll talk about this calmly. When I know that this is not just like me being hormonal, when I hate fucking saying that, because I feel like women's courage is against them, having weaponized against them, right Like, we're hormonal, we can't handle anything. But it's like I also know that my hormones are really high up there, right Like they're really rough during that time period, and if I start an argument it's going to go the wrong way.

Naihomy: 26:14

Isn't it fun Like, oh my God, I would get such an edge to pick fights.

Ariana: 26:20

I'm like, I just want to like, I just want to yell at you.

Naihomy: 26:26

I'm glad we're talking about moms and relationships with our partners, because same I have gotten like it has gone left many times. Oh yeah, yeah. And the thing is that if you don't know what's happening to yourself, it's really hard to try and explain it to somebody else like your partner.

Ariana: 26:46

Yeah, yeah. So like now, he's like I didn't know, you're okay, and I'm like, I have my period, I'm feeling like shit, I don't really like there's nothing to do right now. And he'll like, be he'll, even though things may not be going perfectly. That week he'll be a little kinder because he knows that like shit is going left in my head, right, like it's stupid, so like he, he, my awareness leads to his awareness, which then leads us, like, being able to communicate and him knowing. Okay, I'm not going to pick fights with her today or this week.

Naihomy: 27:19

Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.

Naihomy: 27:21

I agree, our awareness leads to better communication with others especially when it's our partners and our kids that are always with us and are always experiencing, are always in our experience in these cycles, because we live together and the same thing. I was able to better explain. I was able to share resources and resources, articles, memes, things like that, so we can better understand me. And I would even have like a warning message. I'm like, look, I am not feeling good, I just want to pick fights, like anything. I say like just so, don't pay attention, just ask me. This is the instructions I gave my partner. I'm like, just ask me if I need a hug. That's great.

Ariana: 28:09

That's actually give me a hug. I don't even tell him to ask me anymore because I'm just going to say, no, I'm just like I don't feel good. And he's like okay, I'm just going to hug you, cuddle you for a little while. I'm like okay, thank you, like that's great, that's what I needed, because I won't even say yes to that, I'm like I don't.

Ariana: 28:27

But like something else that like comes up is because I have PCOS and my periods are so irregular. Well, the cycle syncing. I wanted to like just make this one point and that the cycle syncing is that much more important because I'm able to pinpoint now when I ovulate, IE like when I'm able to pinpoint like the 24 to 48 hours right before I know that my life is going to about to go like upside down and then like prepare myself for that Right, like I know what's happening, even with, especially because I have such a regular cycles. So, even if there's no patterns in my cycles, I can say, ok, my body's ovulating. I know in the next couple of days I'm going to feel like shit, so let me like get my life together before that.

Naihomy: 29:10

Yeah, that's a really good point. And, like, I don't suffer from irregular periods, but I love tracking as well, like you said, because as soon as I feel a shift in the body where something that's not doesn't normally annoy me, like just irks me or I'm feeling a little extra tired, or something like that, I immediately go to the app and I'm like yep, 10 days.

Ariana: 29:39

Yeah, oh, that's the other thing. I can sleep for like 13 hours in my period.

Naihomy: 29:44

It's so exhausting.

Ariana: 29:46

I'm like sleep for days. I fall asleep with the kids, wake up in the next morning, Like when I'm not. I can get like maybe five, six, seven hours of sleep and like be good and like still be super productive. So that was a whole other thing. It's a pain in the ass, honestly.

Naihomy: 30:03

What do you allow, like, give yourself grace and permission to do around this time that otherwise you wouldn't need?

Ariana: 30:15

I think I that's a really good question. Um, so I allow myself to reschedule meetings, mmm, so good. So, because I don't know when my period's coming, when I see it, if I see that I have really busy days, I will allow myself to reschedule meetings. I allow myself to have slow mornings, so, like today. I don't think I logged on until like 1130. I dropped off the kids, got home stretched for 40 minutes, took a long shower and came downstairs, made myself breakfast, um, or at that point, lunch, um, and then, like, logged on to my computer at like 1130. Um, and, like I said, I don't start anything near this week.

Naihomy: 30:56

Like during this time.

Ariana: 30:58

I make it so that I'm only tackling things like like crossing the T's and dotting, i's right, uh. And then I allow myself to fall asleep at 830 if I need to. Yeah, so like if I'm tired and like I'm like in like putting the kids to bed, if I need to go to sleep, I'm going to sleep.

Naihomy: 31:14

That's so good. That's so good. I I really like that. My stuff is mostly with food. Like I, I just want to eat chocolate and extra desserts.

Naihomy: 31:24

And they always say, like, don't do that, because you're you know, your blood sugar is extra sensitive. And it's like you know what? Like, leave me alone, I'm going to eat what I want to eat. And same thing, I'll go to bed earlier if I need to. I'll, like watch mundane TV shows. Um, so give yourself, identify what those things are that on a regular basis, because we try and be so strict with ourselves. And then it's like, why do I need this? Like I don't normally need this. I'm usually fine with let's say yeah, yeah like seven, six, seven hours of sleep.

Ariana: 32:01

Like yeah, like please. During my period, if I tried only seven hours of sleep, that would be a monster, like monster. Like last night I got like the kids went to sleep. I got into bed, listened to my audiobook for 10 minutes and passed out.

Naihomy: 32:15

Like oh, I passed out on the couch Like first, first this week, this week. So my husband and I, we have very different tastes when it comes to TV shows. Like he's a Scorpio, so he likes, like guns and murder and all that and and and.

Naihomy: 32:40

I I recently found out this is normal for Scorpios to like these kinds of shows and I'm like that just puts me on edge. It elevates my nervous system. Like I can't watch like this, not relaxing. So what he does is he. He like bookmarks, chick flicks for me and like fluffy stuff so we could watch together, because I won't watch the shows. So he, we're watching this like comedy, couponing, movie or something like that, and I knock out the minute he switches over. First of all, I didn't know he did this. And then I wake and I look at the woman on the screen and I'm like, does she dye her hair? And then I'm like this is a little violent, like what's going on. And he's like, oh, you fall asleep. So I put something I wanted to watch, so I can't even hang. Yeah, that's, that's pretty interesting.

Naihomy: 33:44

I also wanted to bring up that. Another thing that I started doing as an entrepreneur is that I started planning events that I had control over around the time where my energy was highest, because I realized that I would pick random dates on the calendar or whatever not random, but just like, for whatever reason I would pick these dates and then it would be in the time where I was like it's so bad and I had zero energy to do those things and I was like nope, like we're, we're going to have to plan high energy events or talks or training on high energy days and if, for whatever reason, I am going to an event that I have no control over the scheduling, that I need to give myself a lot of downtime and, like a pep talk, to show up, yeah, and then a lot of time afterwards to decompress, like then you have to sandwich it like that, yeah.

Ariana: 34:48

So my, because of the PCOS right, I can't really plan that way. So that's why I allow myself to cancel or reschedule what I can when I have so good Right. So like, if I need and I've told my team this like straight up I'm like y'all, this is what, this is what it is If I have, if I can't take a client call, I will let you know, I will let you, like, tell you who's going to be on point for that day. But or I'll cancel or reschedule the meeting right Because of that. Like I had a live earlier today that I didn't want to reschedule. So instead of having to be 30 minutes, I had to be 20 or 15, 15 to 20 minutes, right, I made it just shorter. But, like, where possible, I tried to decompress the amount of time that I have to be face to face with people and or I like how a lot of really comfortable clothes on.

Ariana: 35:42

So that I feel like, even if I'm talking to people, I still feel like Like almost like a hug, like I'm like wrapped up in a blanket right now. I have a sweater on, I have leggings on right, like I'm really comfortable right now. So I make that a priority also right. So like all week have been like pajamas weeks or pajamas yeah.

Naihomy: 36:02

Warm. It actually is very soothing for the nervous system and I just saw a post from the nutrition school. I went to just saying this too. And the same I have like extra cafe, but normally is decaf because, you know, I, I don't want to be super caffeinated and stuff and like have nice shawls and things like that.

Naihomy: 36:20

But yeah, there are many ways to help ourselves manage really things that there. There are certain things that are in our control and there are certain things that are out of our control. And I love that you brought in the perspective of PCOS and periods being like in such a wide window that it's harder to track and how you manage that, because I feel like it's it's a lot of women Can relate to your story. And then, in my perspective, where they're just so freaking short, where I had one good week a month, yeah, like since I was like young and I thought there was something seriously wrong with me and I would cry at the randomest things, like if I missed the train, I would cry. If I watched the toilet paper commercial, I would cry. If I see a beautiful flower, I would cry. It's just like, like, like, really. And then my husband would be like why are you crying? And I'm like no reason.

Ariana: 37:25

Yeah right, it's like I don't know why, no reason, or just like it's beautiful or some shit. And they're like what the fuck is wrong with you? Like it's like what is that? And like that whole thing of like missing the train or missing that, like when I worked at corporate, missing my bus I should have been up earlier and no better. Blah, blah, blah. Like that whole, like that inner monologue, that like inner critic is so loud during this time that I've like like this morning, even when I was taking like forever to get ready, I was like yeah, nah, you have work to do. Like you're not gonna do anything done. I was like you know what? Fuck that? Because I have productive as days, there are days that I go to sleep at like one o'clock in the morning because I'm like in Working, so like if I can't get downstairs until like 1130, it is what it is. Everybody will survive. Shit, we'll get done. It's okay Beautiful. It's taken a long time to get here, y'all.

Naihomy: 38:23

I want to point out that we both have learned this in our 30s. Okay, please be kind to yourself, and it's not too late and you're not too old, and just because you've had your period for forever.

Naihomy: 38:36

You know, we are very yeah, we are very underserved, under educated what's it called? Be a little Gaslit, like anything and everything out there. So this is why and I'm so Grateful that you agreed to have this conversation and be so open and vulnerable with your own journey, because I feel like it's true stories like these that other women feel seen and and Situations yeah, and and creating their own little methods of what works for them, you know.

Ariana: 39:12

I I've always loved the idea of cycle syncing, but as somebody with PCOS, I'm like how the hell do I cycle sync Right? Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. Like that's why I've created this. Like flexibility in my scheduling and how I do certain things right. So like because it's like we all have to figure out ways to make it work. Yes, but no one was talking about it.

Naihomy: 39:31

Yes, and cycle cycle syncing became such a big thing and I don't love it either, like I. I rather Like, exactly like you just really get to know my own body and what I may need that day, that hour, that afternoon, that morning, just like you, because it's. It's still even a lot more effective because even if you cycle sync some, some, some cycles, it might not sink and and then some cycles are better than others.

Naihomy: 40:01

Then here you go again saying that it's not working, where the main thing is to just Learn yourself and have an abundance of tools that you can pick from when you need it, without the shame or Put the shame in the parking lot. And sometimes for my clients, like if you have to bring that shit with you, all right, just like carry that shit with you but know that is over there, adji, like you're not in the paper bag that you know.

Ariana: 40:30

You can throw out later.

Naihomy: 40:31

Yeah, yeah, yeah, like the Justin case, but we're we're not letting it take over, like we need to draw boundaries with our negative thoughts. Sometimes I'd like to give them a name and be like all right, vicky, is he not? For today, we're not gonna talk about that.

Ariana: 40:44

No, I love that because you have to tell yourself like okay and we're stopping here like we're literally putting in line here we're not going any further.

Ariana: 40:53

You're not talking shit to me anymore, and the same way that you wouldn't take that shit if somebody else was yelling at you like don't take it, just cuz drunk head, like it's just you're doing it to yourself, does that mean like you deserve it? So like making sure to stop that conversation, like early before you do like more there, I think, like early before you do like more damage.

Naihomy: 41:16

Hello, hi, no, I'm here. Oh no, oh, I don't know what happened, but my earbuds said something about bluetooth connected. I don't know if everybody heard that or it was just me, but no, that was just me.

Naihomy: 41:30

And here I am giving a whole disdain, meh, um. But yes, I, I think and it seems like you agree that that's just such a a much better approach of Getting to know yourself and using the tools that are out there and see if they work for you. But if they don't, don't make it mean. Don't make it mean something about yourself, correct, you know? So I appreciate your time. Thank you so much for hopping on. I love this conversation and how serious it is and how much we laughed at the same time.

Ariana: 42:04

I'm glad that we were able to just like you know, we resonated with each other. We knew that this was. We were like, yeah, this happens on a regular basis. We're cool, it's fine.

Naihomy: 42:11

Yeah, because I don't see anybody really openly talking about it and just explaining what's happening. And when you did that and you're an entrepreneur and a mom and a partner and all that, I'm like, yes, let's talk um. So any last words where can people find you? Work with you, support you share with us?

Ariana: 42:31

So, last words, um, I think the most important thing that what you should need to take from this conversation Is, like, you need to be flexible with yourself, um, and like, find the tools that are allowed for that flexibility, right, um, try what you have, try what I mean, both of us have both have PMDD, we both have had similar journeys and we both do very different things to make ourselves feel better. Right, we both came up with really different things and I think, like, pick and choose what you think will work for you, try it and if it doesn't work, try the next thing. It's okay, um, and then, so, uh, you can find me on ig at adianahalerigaco. Um, that is also my website. Um, I'm mainly on ig, so have, like, if you want to talk about anything regarding Neural emergency, around cycle syncing, pc os, pmdd, and or how to like fix the operations in your business. I am a girl, um, and, yeah, always happy to chat with everybody.

Naihomy: 43:33

Thank you so much. Something I I was gonna mention and then didn't is that I also suffer from seasonal depression and you being in new jersey, I'm in new york, like that's something that just adds on. So again, if you also want to talk about PMDD, seasonal depression, all that good stuff, how you can Actually use food and movement to help with these kinds of things, and how to get started, and even tracking, I can help you. And and identifying right, like helping you identify your pattern, because sometimes you're so deep in it that you don't even realize what's happening. Um, I would know most times when my clients was gonna get their period before they knew, because I I just picked up on their patterns. I'm like um, do you want to check your calendar?

Ariana: 44:23

I love that.

Naihomy: 44:24

So thank you so much. You guys, please go follow ariana. Her links are gonna be in the show notes. She is a wonderful, beautiful human to connect with and, again, if you want any sort of holistic health support, I'm your girl, go ahead and DM me or our book consultation, and I hope that this conversation served you. You felt seen and it gave you some tips and tools and guidance for you to Live a more peaceful life. All right.

Ariana: 44:59

I'll see you all next week.

Naihomy: 45:01

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Naihomy: 45:56

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